Your Future Other Half: It Matters Whom You Marry
Summary: The subtitle of this book says it perfectly--it matters whom you marry! Your future spouse is going to have an enormous impact on your life--physically, mentally, emotionally, relationally. But most importantly, a spouse will greatly impact your spiritual life. Will he be concerned about your personal relationship with the Lord and ensure that it continues to grow? Will he lead both you and any possible children you may have together in a godly manner, tenderly nurturing his household in the ways of the Lord? This book is especially geared to young unmarried women and the message is a solid and biblical one.
Personal Thoughts: I wish I could put this book into every young woman's hands. Now, no man is perfect, but the Bible gives some pretty solid guidelines when it comes to choosing a spouse, and the author does an excellent job of highlighting those requirements. She also makes it clear that while a young woman is 'sizing' up a man, her suitor is also evaluating her according to the Biblical requirements of a wife and mother. What are young women doing right now to prepare themselves to be a healthy, godly wife? The chapter on a man affecting your entire spiritual life is definitely the best chapter in the book and certainly the most important in my opinion.
Quote: The first principle that I would like to share with you is simple and direct: if the guy that you're thinking of is not a believer, you should stop dating him right now! Even if he seems open to change, it is never appropriate to yoke a redeemed soul with an unregenerate one--not even if you're 'only dating.' Christ has bought you with a price and it is simply not an option to give away that blood-bought heart to someone who doesn't know and love your Lord. Doing so will cripple your spiritual development, open up a host of temptations, stifle your prayer life, make regular church going difficult, and cause massive parenting conflict if you have children. The idea that he is your soul mate is a lie; his soul is a stranger to the grace that has saved you. Scripture tells you to walk away from his advances. --pg. 27,28
And the Bride Wore White
Summary:Here is a book intended for young, unmarried women. This book really stresses how important it is to wait and to save ourselves for our husbands. It teaches modesty. It properly defines innocence and purity. In very clear and understandable terms it lays out what is proper and what is considered improper while dating. It talks about the type of spouse we need to pray for, and at the same time encourages those involved in improper relationships to end them. These are just a few of the many topic covered. But most importantly, this book uses the Bible as its sole textbook, constantly stressing that our relationship with the Lord trumps any earthly relationship.
Personal Thoughts: I wish I could place this book in every young woman's hands. Nothing is left to guesswork. No stone is left unturned. It is completely straightforward (in a modest way) which really contributes to the strength of this book. Secrets are never okay and I appreciated that the author really encouraged these girls to involve their parents and covet their advice throughout their dating years.
Quote: Today Satan still loves to make you feel inferior, like you are missing something and can't measure up. He likes to make you think that you cannot possibly wait for this wonderful gift and that if you're really intelligent about it, you shouldn't have to wait. Eve's story sounds so much like the sexually enlightened world in which you and I live. We're constantly being thrust into debate over sexual issues. But as Ed Young reminds us, "All that the current experts have managed to give us in terms of sexual enlightenment has not satisfied our longing for something transcendent, something pure and beautiful. Instead we've settled for what some have called 'nutra-sex' --artificial substitutes for pure sex that eventually cause cancer--both in relationships and in the soul." --pg 29